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Post by theprettydead on Feb 26, 2009 6:36:49 GMT -5
I'm sure they can. At least, that's what I gather everytime I hear the Republicans I know talk about how great the inmates have it in prison. I think what they mean is they make great profits from having inmates in prison.  You mean, like- by providing them with all the mod-cons? No, I didn't think you were! I was hoping your post was a bit of a hyperbole If it was, I wasn't aware of it. But that's always The-Way with me. I never know quite what I'm doing. and you would think, "Ha! It's not quite as bad as in prison!" and thusly be slightly cheered up. Oh, I was just saying that a life without those things would stink. I wasn't describing my own...necessarily. Sorry that backfired! I've been crossing my fingers you'll find some fun. I'm sure I will. As for life philosophies / perspectives... I passed cynical a long time ago. Now I'm trying to find the humor in The Bleak That Lies Herein. I'll never know if that's Irony or Hyperbole or Too-Revealing... or... Not. |
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Post by Head Mutant on Mar 5, 2009 9:28:40 GMT -5
So we got a call yesterday morning that one of the ladies in our church lost her son over the night. We went over to be with the family, pray over the son that died -- who died suddenly, perhaps something due to sleep apnea or being drunk, we're not sure.
This morning I got another call informing me that yesterday, one of the dead son's brothers got so depressed he went over to his friend's house and OD'd on heroin. She lost two kids in one day. I can't imagine.
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Post by TheLuckyOne on Mar 5, 2009 9:53:28 GMT -5
Oh my God, that's horrible. Just... wow. I'm so sorry for her and her family.
-D
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Post by theprettydead on Mar 5, 2009 10:13:52 GMT -5
There sure is a lot going on in that post. I should probably not say anything. Though, the it's-a-shame shock of reading this kind of thing often inspires an awkward feeling of needing to say something- whether it is or isn't helpful.
I'm a big believer in knowing what goes in your kids' lives. Making them trust you by not judging them. And helping out through listening and supportively becoming active every once in awhile. Very few of these types of tragedies happen by accident, if you know what I mean.
Of course, I also don't know what sleep apnea is. So, if that's the case, there's nothing anyone could have done. But if one kid was doing heroin, it wouldn't surprise me if the other was a drinker. I know that's really judgmental and nasty, but I see way too many cases of kids in trouble and their parents often contribute in a negative way.
It's a snap judgment to say that maybe the religious nature of their family contributed to the kids' dangerous lifestyles. But from my position, it's not out of the realm of possibility either. Kids almost never know how to handle the intense judgments and inconsistent morality of organized religions. And it usually does create a kind of rift between the parent and the child.
From my own personal experience, most parents don't know how to relate to children. So much condescending and patronizing that happens in the dynamic of that relationship. How are kids supposed to answer back to religious and political expectations and limitations set upon them that may stunt their development? They usually answer back in becoming distant from the relationships that are for whatever reason strained. Or have too much artificiality, and not enough humanity, between them.
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Post by Al on Mar 5, 2009 10:48:56 GMT -5
Of course, I also don't know what sleep apnea is. Basically, you stop breathing for five to ten seconds in your sleep. It's weight-related in most cases (although it's theorized sleep apnea may be the cause of SIDS) and usually requires some kind of lifestyle change to combat, like sleeping in a chair or in an elevated position. Alcohol definitely can aggravate it, since the body is less likely to respond to the discomfort it causes. Wikipedia |
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Post by BlackCatWhiteCat on Mar 5, 2009 15:18:15 GMT -5
I'm beyond words with how awful that is. I'll keep her family in my prayers.
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Post by theprettydead on Mar 5, 2009 17:15:46 GMT -5
Does everyone use that expression now? It is hip and trendy or something?
I'm always the last one to know about these things!
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Post by Head Mutant on Mar 5, 2009 19:57:38 GMT -5
Don't judge the family, please. Only the mother comes to church, and she was going out of her way to help her adult sons get their lives back on track after they made some bad decisions.
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Post by pfrsue on Mar 5, 2009 21:29:41 GMT -5
Justin, the family will be in my prayers as well.
Not because it's a hip or trendy thing to say, DD, but because they will be.
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Post by theprettydead on Mar 7, 2009 13:55:39 GMT -5
Sorry if I said anything that bothered you guys, clearly I'm not good with all the church and prayers stuff and I don't know anyone that takes it that seriously. In fact, my sense of humor prohibits me from taking organized religion seriously on any level.
I think God would approve of that. There's a lot of goodness in my heart, if you look past the world-weary bitchy-ness.
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Post by BlackCatWhiteCat on Mar 9, 2009 17:17:51 GMT -5
Ah, this one is a two-parter and connected.
First and foremost, my husband left today for a 7-month deployment to the Middle East. Things look to be pretty lonely, due to what few friends I have here moving/having a new baby/having serious life changes that make me uncomfortable laying my problems on them. Also I'm in the market for a job so..well..we all know how depressing that is, these days. So yeah..husbandless, jobless, (nearly) friendless, and I attend a tiny church with predominately elderly and very ill people, so no good group of young people for a support group.
Secondly I can NOT find my power of attorney. We did a serious speed clean when my mother in law came last week for a visit and I think it's jammed in some place I'll never imagine to look. I've been looking for it like crazy. I can't get our taxes done or take out the bank loan I wanted without it. I've been finding paperwork in strange places like my husband's dive bag, so at this point there's no telling where stuff got crammed when we speed-cleaned the other day. Obviously the hubster can't get me a new one (at least not for a long while) so I'm stuck in a very tough place.
I'll appreciate any and all prayers and good wishes that I will find this highly important yet quite stealthy piece of paper.
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Post by dex on Mar 13, 2009 14:02:45 GMT -5
doing 60 on the highway, passing an ambulance and a fire truck standing on the shoulder, seeing the paramedic's face in the wing mirror, and thus recognizing it's the very ambulance you've been chasing, the one with your father and his sudden heart problems in it.
Turns out they just had a flat. And my dad doesn't even need much of a treatment for the time being.
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Post by DarthShady on Mar 14, 2009 15:35:27 GMT -5
Misery is seeing the face of the drunk driver who killed your 20-year-old friend on the America's Most Wanted website and knowing that the cops still haven't found him after a month.
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Post by BlackCatWhiteCat on Mar 15, 2009 14:48:30 GMT -5
Misery is seeing the face of the drunk driver who killed your 20-year-old friend on the America's Most Wanted website and knowing that the cops still haven't found him after a month. Courtney-I should probably write you personall, but my home computer's down and my time on this one's limited all I want you to know is that I will be praying for you and that they catch that person. There's nothing I could say about how terribly I feel for you that wouldn't sound trite, but I am so sorry for your loss. Take care and let me know if you need anyone talk to.  |
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Post by PoolMan on Mar 17, 2009 21:26:56 GMT -5
Being stuck on a business trip on St Paddy's day with the company credit card, and all the guys you were supposed to go out with left already.
Woo and hoo for another night in a hotel room with nothing to do.
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